One of my buddies, Toni, was completely enamored with this young man she met while in college. It was an associate’s degree program and Toni was all about getting the degree and moving up in her job and generally in life. Her first day of class, she met this guy, I’ll call him Ray, and they really hit it off.
They were together for at least a year before Ray suddenly dropped out of the program. Now, dropping out of school in itself is not a crime, but hold on, I’m going somewhere with this. Toni took it well and continued to date Ray for at least another year and a half.
He moved into her apartment, subsequently was fired from his low-wage job, and stayed up all night playing video games. Because he had a place to live and his needs were being provided for by Toni, Ray was very loose about looking for another job. He also decided he didn't want to go back to college.
Even though Toni really loved this guy, she eventually arrived at the point where she felt that her goals and his no longer matched. By this time, she’d finished her degree program and was moving up in her job. Reluctantly, she decided it was time for them to part ways; she didn't see him heading in any positive direction and didn’t want him to hold her back.
She broke it off.
Your assignment for this post is to fly. Don't let anyone---even a man---hold you back.
It’s up to you to decide if the person you date is on the same page with you or not. There’s nothing wrong with moving on if the two of you just aren’t going in the same direction. Each of us is responsible for our own lives, and you can’t fully blame him if you allow him to hold you back when you have potential to fly.
As far as I know, Ray moved back in with his mother and may still be there.
Sorry, dude. It happens that way sometimes.