The third part of "dating by default" that destroys a woman's chance at romantic happiness is settling for less than she deserves. Now that we've walked through a checklist of the characteristics of the man for you, it's important that you not settle for anything less than what’s on that checklist.
Sure, you probably won't find a man that meets every single standard on a 100 item checklist. But don't just check two items off and call it a wedding date, either. Get as many goals met as you can.
One of the biggest selection mistakes a woman can make is accepting a man who violates one of her top five values, characteristics or wants. She may settle because she feels she's being too picky or too harsh.
You just can't be too harsh during the most important decision and time of your life.
There are some things you can deal with and some you just can't. There's a difference, and you want to draw that line so you can determine who really made the cut...and who just got settled for.
There's one more thing you need to do with your list, so pull it out again.
You need to prioritize.
Look at the list again. What are THE most important items to you? What can you not live without and would probably resent a man who lacked them?
Those need to be moved to the top of the list and cordoned off. This basically means if he doesn't meet these criteria, he's out. Harsh? Nah.
Want some examples? For most women I've worked with, their deal breakers included:
Not necessarily in that order.
Yours may be similar, but please do whatever is best for you.... don’t duplicate that list unless it just so happens to match your individual needs.
And unless you really want to go above and beyond, they don't have to be ranked other than being somewhere in the top 5. Order only matters if you want it to. Remember, this blueprint reflects YOU.
Once your top 5 or so are at the top, guard them. Don't settle.
Any characteristics you are willing to be flexible on should be underneath these 5. These five are inviolate, so choose them wisely.
That's what keeps you from settling. Don't be afraid to stand up for your list. You thought long and hard about it, you matched it to yourself, and you let it grow and change as you have. It's one of the best tools you have against poor relationships and avoidable problems.
I wish you the best!