Angie sat in the restaurant booth once again waiting for Mike. Staring down at her phone for the millionth time, she wondered why she was putting herself through this again. He was extremely late, hadn't bothered to call, and was probably blowing her off.
“He never respects my time or me.” she thought.
Angie knows Mike isn’t the man of her dreams, far from it. She is always punctual when someone is waiting on her, and wanted that in return from the men she dated. She had never wanted someone who didn't respect her time.
But she’s rationalized that away by figuring Mike is not abusive, he speaks kind words. He is handsome, and she feels lucky to have gotten him. She’s got to accept what she can get…right?
Well, not really. See, there is the other guy…
There this guy at Angie’s work that she finds super attractive. He always makes a point to compliment her outfit or hair. He is attentive, handsome, and intelligent. He respects others time and is always punctual for meetings. He's really an old-fashioned chivalrous type. Imagine that.
The best part? He's single, and everyone knows it. He's even said he was "looking around for a nice woman to date."
And to top it all off, Angie’s coworkers are constantly telling her that he has a thing for her. “No, he would never go for a girl like me.” Angie tells them.
Have you ever stayed with someone that you knew was not right for you because you felt you couldn’t do better? Have you settled for mediocrity instead of the best fit? For "good enough" company rather than love?
If you answered yes to any of that or can relate to Angie’s mindset, have I got some tips for you today!
Stop putting yourself down and feeling unworthy of the love you want. You are a beautiful, amazing person. Each and every person has a beauty, a life, a story that is uniquely theirs. A specialness – I think I made that word up -- that only you bring to the table.
Don't settle for less than you deserve. To turn the tide and stop settling for the "good enough" guy, follow these guidelines:
Find something you love and do it!
Well, when you find something you love to do, it’s likely that you are good at it. Not only is your confidence increased, and you have enough respect not to settle, as a bonus, you'll probably meet a good man that likes the same things you do!
Learn from others who DON'T settle.
If you see a beautiful woman attracting the guys, instead of deciding she’s competition, why not discover what makes her so attractive and use it.
Is it something about her personality, smile, the way she carries herself? Most likely, she's confident and won’t settle for less than she deserves. Copy some of them that resonate with you and see if those can work in your favor too.
Make a list and check it more than twice.
Either start or keep adding to that checklist of the traits you want in a man. When you meet a new guy, check him against your list.
If he's found really lacking in several of your wants and needs, don’t be afraid to move on to the next candidate. You'll be doing BOTH of you a favor by finding your ideal guy, and allowing him to find a lady that fits him better.
By the way, when you decide that you won't settle for less than you deserve, not only does your confidence increase, you begin to realize that you respect yourself more. When you value yourself, you draw other people into your life that will respect you too. Including potential relationship candidates.
Go on and get that amazing guy you deserve. Settling is so yesterday!