Heard any of this before?
“You’re twenty-five and still single?”
"You've been married five years and don't have any kids yet?!"
Ladies, we've all been there. Don't you hate listening to someone telling you how you should be living your life and making you feel like you've missed the mark on some kind of universally accepted timeline?
Not all "over twenty-five" women are married, and that's okay.
Not all married women have babies, and that's okay too. Really.
Rather than lower your eyes in shame to the floor, hold that head up high even though you may not be doing the things society says a woman is supposed to do at certain ages.
You've Got a Lot Going On
Let’s face it, times have changed, and you've been living a modern life, not like your grandmother did. Life doesn't always follow societies plan.
You’re Not Her
Just because Sara, Jane, or your mother’s friend’s cousin Denise’s daughter just had a magnificent wedding, doesn't mean you have to start dress shopping.
Don’t let friends, family members, or the media offer relationship advice that doesn't work for you. Don’t let others make you feel like you are supposed to be doing what they’re doing.
You Have To Walk YOUR Path
Everyone’s path is different and thank goodness! Maybe getting married and having a child at 23 worked out swimmingly for Patty. Maybe making a career out of school and pursuing that doctorate has been fabulous for Marcy.
Whatever your heart is telling you to do, do it, and don't worry about everyone else!
Your Calling Is Important
If you stifle your dreams and your gifts in order to do what society says you should do because you're "supposed to,” the world suffers! You have something that only you can give.
A combination of experiences, learning, and talents only you possess. Not Lily, not Sally, or Veronica. Just you.
Besides, didn't you just hate it when you asked your mother why you had to do something and she replied, "because I said so"? Frankly that wasn't a good reason then, and it still isn't now.
Time is of The Essence…But…
True, you want to live your life and not put things off, but don’t let time bully you, either. Just because you are not ready to have kids, get married, go to college, or any of those other things you are “supposed” to be doing, doesn't mean you never will be. Maybe you have other things you would like to do first.
Maybe you want to embrace that once in a lifetime opportunity to travel. Maybe you want to dabble in entrepreneurship or find that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
I don’t know what your dream is, but I do know if you are stressing over being off track from societies plan, you’re not out there living, well, anything!
And living is what it’s all about, right?